Imposter Syndrome Is Real. I should know; I suffered from it.

Imposter Syndrome is a sneaky little devil that can creep up on anyone, no matter how successful or accomplished they may be. It's like that uninvited guest who crashes your party and refuses to leave. Imposter Syndrome is a phenomenon where individuals doubt their accomplishments and have an internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud. It is a vastly growing experience among professionals in today's workforce. Trust me, I know this all too well. As a successful, accomplished, intelligent leader, I've had my fair share of achievements and accolades. From playing in two Little League world series as a boy to dining in the White House three times to gracing the screens of national TV shows like FOX News, CNN, and Dr. Phil - I've had some fantastic experiences. But despite all these accomplishments, Imposter Syndrome managed to find its way into my life.

The Big Bang Theory Connection:

Picture this: I'm put in charge of regulating multi-billion dollar companies in a highly technical industry. Pretty cool. But instead of feeling like the confident leader I should be, I felt like a fish out of water at the end of my first week.

After my first week in this leadership position, I relaxed with my wife and recounted our weeks. Now that I had a week under my belt, she asked me what my new role was like. Trying to find the right words to describe my experience working with primarily highly technical engineers and public policy wonks, I blurted out, "I work with the cast of The Big Bang Theory. Brilliant people, but a bit lacking in the social skills department." Before taking this role, I had just completed a successful political career where personal skills and engaging with people are absolute requirements to succeed. A skill I and all those I worked with had mastered. When those words left my mouth, my wife gave me a puzzled look and asked, "Then which cast member are you?" That question echoed in my mind like a broken record. Who am I? At that moment, I realized I had fallen into the trap of Imposter Syndrome as it hit me - I was Penny.

In the TV show The Big Bang Theory, the comedic brilliance lies in the contrast between Penny, the vibrant and outgoing neighbor who is a struggling actress, and the four nerdy men - Leonard, Raj, Howard, and Sheldon, who hold Ph.D. and advanced degrees from technical fields. Penny's stark differences from her intellectual counterparts create uproarious moments that keep us laughing. From her bafflement at their geeky conversations to her amusing attempts to navigate their eccentricities, Penny's presence adds a delightful twist to the show's dynamic, leaving us in stitches with her hilarious interactions with the nerdy quartet. Except I was not laughing. All I felt was how different I was from everyone there, and much like Penny who was surrounded by Astro-physicists and NASA Engineers, I felt stupid.

The Struggle is Real:

Imposter Syndrome is no joke. That nagging voice in your head tells you that you don't belong, that you're not good enough, and that you're just faking it. And let me tell you, it can be relentless. Here I was, a successful individual who had built and sold several businesses, feeling like a fraud in a room full of brilliant minds. It was as if all my accomplishments suddenly didn't matter anymore, and in my mind, everyone was talking about how unqualified I was or how I was going to fail.

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome:

But like any good story, there's always a silver lining. Once I recognized that I was suffering from Imposter Syndrome and had become "Penny," I knew I had to take action. So, I started by reminding myself of everything I had achieved, from the White House dinners to passing landmark pieces of legislation and becoming the most senior member of the Missouri Senate at the ripe age of 41. Those were not mere flukes or strokes of luck. They resulted from hard work, dedication, and being blessed with a few God-given talents.

I also sought support from those around me. Talking openly about my struggles with my wife and close friends helped me realize that I wasn't alone in this battle. Many successful individuals have experienced Imposter Syndrome at some point in their lives, and knowing that gave me comfort. Plus, my wife always reminded me that Penny was the "hot" one. (She always knows how to cheer me up).

Embracing My Inner Penny:

Instead of fighting against the feeling of being an imposter, I embraced it. After all, Penny may not have been as academically inclined as her friends on The Big Bang Theory, but she brought her own unique qualities to the table. She was kind-hearted, funny, and had a zest for life. So, I started channeling my inner Penny - embracing my strengths and quirks. I started letting my humorous side shine. I started trying to learn more of the technical things, which led to me getting two Master's Degrees. And then, I focused on my strengths, which were people. Much like Penny, I started to build relationships with all different types of people in our organization. From the guy in the mailroom to our top attorneys. I know people, and if I can connect with them, they will see I am not an imposter but genuinely care about them, the organization, and their career and personal goals.

My message to fellow leaders is this: Imposter Syndrome is not fun, and if you want your colleagues and employees to avoid its unpleasant foray into their careers, here are some suggestions to help others with this growing problem in the workplace.

1. Embrace Failure:

One unconventional way to tackle imposter syndrome is by reframing failure as a valuable learning opportunity. Encouraging employees to share their failures openly creates a culture that normalizes setbacks and emphasizes growth. Individuals can overcome inadequacy and develop resilience by acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes. Additionally, implementing a "Failure Wall" where employees can share their failures and the lessons learned can serve as a visual reminder that failure is an essential part of the journey toward success.

2. Mentorship Programs:

Establishing mentorship programs within the workplace can be an effective way to address imposter syndrome. Pairing experienced professionals with those new to the field provides a supportive environment for individuals to seek guidance and share their concerns. Mentors can offer valuable insights, share personal experiences, and help mentees navigate challenges. This relationship helps individuals realize that even accomplished professionals have faced similar doubts and fears, alleviating imposter syndrome.

3. Celebrate Uniqueness:

Creating a workplace culture that celebrates individuality and diverse perspectives can combat imposter syndrome. Encouraging employees to embrace their unique strengths and talents fosters a sense of belonging and authenticity. By highlighting the value that each person brings to the table, individuals are less likely to feel like imposters. Moreover, organizing events or initiatives that showcase employees' diverse hobbies, talents, or side projects can help them recognize their multifaceted identities beyond their professional roles.

4. Reverse Mentoring:

Inverting the traditional mentor-mentee dynamic, reverse mentoring pairs junior employees with senior professionals to share knowledge and insights. This approach allows junior employees to showcase their expertise in technology, social media, or emerging trends. Empowering junior employees to teach and guide senior professionals challenges the notion that knowledge is solely based on years of experience. This reversal helps individuals overcome imposter syndrome by recognizing their unique contributions and expertise.

5. Gamification and Challenges:

Introducing gamification elements in the workplace can help combat imposter syndrome by turning personal growth and skill development into engaging challenges. Creating friendly competitions or challenges encouraging employees to step out of their comfort zones fosters a growth mindset and promotes continuous learning. By breaking down complex tasks into smaller achievable goals, individuals can build confidence as they progress through the challenges, reducing imposter syndrome.

6. Anonymous Sharing Platforms:

Providing anonymous sharing platforms, such as online forums or suggestion boxes, allows employees to express their feelings of imposter syndrome without fear of judgment or exposure. Anonymity encourages honest conversations about insecurities, creating a safe space for individuals to seek colleague support. These platforms can also facilitate peer-to-peer mentoring and support networks, enabling individuals to realize they are not alone in their experiences.

Conclusion:

Imposter syndrome is a pervasive workplace issue affecting professionals across various industries. While traditional approaches are practical, incorporating unconventional strategies can provide innovative solutions to combat this phenomenon. By embracing failure, encouraging mentorship programs, celebrating Uniqueness, implementing reverse mentoring, introducing gamification elements, and providing anonymous sharing platforms, organizations can foster a work environment that empowers individuals to overcome imposter syndrome and thrive with confidence. Remember, addressing imposter syndrome is an individual responsibility and a collective effort toward creating a supportive workplace culture.